Growth is painful!
I've come to the realisation that it doesn't matter how or where you enter growth phases in your life, the stage before the growth is almost inevitably painful! Nature reflects this too.
When a caterpillar enters the cocoon preceding its transformation into butterfly, two things happen; firstly the caterpillar COMPLETELY dissolves, becomes liquid, loses its previous form and effectively dies before being reborn, and secondly, if we help it through the painful re-emergence stage by poking a hole in the cocoon to allow easier exit, we are actually harming that rebirth process and here's why.
When the butterfly is ready to emerge, this pushing and straining against the confines of the cocoon are what strengthen the new wings and form of the butterfly. If we, with all of our goodwill, try to 'help', the butterfly before it's ready, it is deprived of this strengthening opportunity and will more than likely die as a result of our intervention - WOW! Now there's a metaphor for life right?
As human beings, most of our growth, be it physical (remember 'growing pains' as a child where your limbs felt like they were betraying you because they were so sore?), emotional (teenage angst) or mental (entry into adulthood), all of this 'growth' usually necessitated a preceding sense of loss, grief and anxiety. Often these feelings could include uncertainty beforehand and in the past, perhaps some doubt or regret afterwards, and yet growth is as inevitable as the cycle of the sun around the earth, so why resist? Why do we imagine that one 'wrong' choice in the past will represent all of our choices in the future?
Most human beings want connection, love and intimacy in our lives. We want to be ok, we want to go beyond survive and into thrive, and yet we fear the unknown so greatly that sometimes we choose to stay in our safe confines never risking failure or rejection, upheaval or loss. The only thing guaranteed with that philosophy is that without risking those very things, we will truly NEVER get to see what our potential may be, to experience what else may be waiting for us on the other side of fear and change.
So my loves, as I personally arrive at yet another threshold of change (The Hero's Journey epitomised) here I am questioning my ability to leap into a new abyss. I welcome this opportunity for growth and therefore I accept the fear and the pain. I hear many of my colleagues and friends expressing similar fears and sufferings, yet none of us would stay still through fear would we? Perhaps so, but ask yourself; can you face those growing pains and see how far you can fly in your own lives too?
You are greatness in essence and you are unlimited potential.
Let's do this together! Let's have each other's backs?
Drop me a reply - what do you dream of that sacred you right now? Name it and watch it diminish in doing so, we are listening.
with love and passion, Steph xox
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