Today would have been my mum's 84th birthday. She would probably have gone for a stroll around her beloved Windsor, or maybe she'd have been adventuring somewhere on the continent, either way she would have been exploring in some way or another, she was like that.
Mum had a zest for life but she was also a terrible worrier; a pattern which had followed her all of her life. If there was something to be anxious about, mum was there at the front of the line being anxious about it! Never quite trusting in the world, she lived it well however...until they discovered her tumour.
She was always supportive of my work and of who I was in the world, knowing what I'd overcome to get there. She had seen me through addictions and ill health, struggle and suffering, crime and punishment, and she'd always said to me "never forget how strong you are Steph, or what you've been through to become the woman you are today", and yet somehow in spite of her support of her children, she failed to see her own strength.
From diagnosis of her tumour to her death, all happened in less than 3 months. Suddenly, this woman who had always been in my life, and whom I imagined would live to my grandmother's age of 100, was gone. Just like that she was gone. A malignant inoperable brain tumour ended her life, the only comfort being that she did not suffer too much, nor was her illness prolonged.
Just prior to her death she became open to other ways of eating, talking and sharing. Going from closed to speaking about certain things, she became open, but death took her too quickly, before she had the time she needed; perhaps she was resigned to it...I'll never know.
After mum died, I was shocked; shocked by how this apparently 'healthy' and active woman could be taken so fast. She had just turned 80 but had the spirit and dynamism of a woman 20 years younger. I resolved there and then to try one month of no wheat, dairy and sugar (mum had a chronic sweet tooth) in her name.
After one month, something odd happened; I felt amazing! I also found I didn't want alcohol any more, so I decided to extend my month trial into another month and add in a few other things too; to cut down on dairy, reduce my intake of processed food, that kind of thing.
Something was changing in me. I was beginning to feel incredible, I was still grieving deeply but I was doing it for my mum, for myself, and for my healing. It was the 'for my mum' bit that kept me going at this point.
That was almost four years ago now, and to this day, I eat clean (mostly!) and don't drink any more. I never really had a problem with alcohol, that wasn't my 'drug of choice' but regular wine consumption definitely messed with my energy levels and created an instability in my sense of wellbeing for sure. I don't miss it at all any more.
I've run juice bars for almost 20 years. I am passionate about health and wellness, and well you know what they say, that you teach or do what you need to learn and so there you are, my health journey was being created before me as I walked the path.
Oh! I almost forgot! This post is about making nut mylk right? Well yes it is, but as with most things in my life, I like to give you the story behind the presentation. I make nut mylk because I don't want to drink cow's milk. I make nut mylk because I want to do as much to preserve my health as possible; because I don't want to suddenly disappear from my own children's lives, and whilst I know that's not just about whether I drink from nuts or not, it is about reclaiming my health in the best way I can.
I love home made nut mylks! There are some great choices out there now (hurrah!) but making your own, well there's nothing to beat it really. You can experiment with flavour, consistency, blending and more. Want to know how? Read on!
To make your own almond mylk here's what to do:
Soak 250 g almonds, skin on, for at least 4 hours or overnight.
Rinse off soak water then add soaked nuts to a high powered blender.
Add 2-3 times the volume of water to nuts, you can do this by sight, and can always add more liquid if needed.
Add pinch grey sel de mer, two or three dates and a pinch of vanilla (optional)
Blend and then sieve all through a nut milk bag (see photo on left above) or piece of muslin cloth (you can also use the end of an old (clean!!) pair of tights!
Bottle and refrigerate then drink within 3 days.
If you like you can add cacao, fresh fruit or other ingredients to make flavoured milks. Play! Enjoy!
All of this should be fun! Sure, it may not be for you and perhaps you prefer to buy (I often do too) but in that case, please just read the labels so you know what's in your drinks before you purchase. Not all nut mylks are made the same ;-)
Much love and radiant health to you #nomshanti - Steph xox
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