It was several years ago now when I first began to dream about travelling to Bali. I noticed that every time I browsed images on the internet for temples, landscapes and places to visit, my whole body would come alive with a tingling sense of excitement and anticipation that went beyond a usual 'holiday plan'. I couldn't particularly explain what was happening, all I knew was that I felt it; in every single cell of my body, I felt it!
Of the images above, the two on the left were the kind of images I began to save; places I wanted to go, experiences I wanted to have. The photo on the right was taken by me, in that same place 12 months later! Now you may say 'ok but that's not so unusual right'? Many people have dreams they achieve when it comes to foreign travel, take photos there with a thumbs up in front of a favourite monument, and I would agree. However for me, it went one step further. I would keep vision boards of these places in locked parts of my instagram or pinterest accounts. I would share on social media how I would be going there soon and allow myself to really dream these moments into being, so much so, that when I got there the year after I first started imagining it, it felt like 'home'. What unfolded for me led to a chain of remarkable events that have changed my life (but that's another story), and that's the magic I want to share with you, because you can do that and have that too; if I can, there's no reason you can't!
Again, the photo on the left was taken from the internet, (i.e., the Dream), and the photo on the right, taken less than 12 months later was my own. You're getting the gist of it yes? Dream it, feel it, believe it!
"You feel it when you know it, and you know it when you feel it."
I've always experienced some form of resistance to all this new-age manifestation stuff! I somehow felt it was disingenuous to just believe it was enough to 'think something into being', to focus so hard on the thinking of it, it would magically appear. To me, that approach felt cut off from the soul of the thing, the heart of the thing, somehow seeking greedily another instant fix in life, and yet for sure there is something in the essence of what's being presented with this 'law of attraction' stuff! If we don't believe at heart we deserve something, or we hear ourselves saying "I could never see myself doing that" and therefore we just settle, then sure as mustard that's invariably what shows up for us. In doing this, in a way we are effectively reverse investing by placing our bets on failure and resignation, two not very inspiring qualities, so in that case, why not start focussing on attracting some more fun options? It's often said that the subconscious mind cannot distinguish between reality as we know it and a strong visualisation, indeed some athletes now use these techniques to enhance their training by running marathons in their mind, and my feeling is, if they can, I can!
Every year for eight years now I've run a Dream Questing event, five of those eight years with my dear friend and colleague Sarah, and this sh*t works let me tell you! It's full moon, I couldn''t sleep so I just got out this years 'map' and was amazed to see that two things I wrote in January have actually just happened! THE EXACT THINGS I WROTE! I don't know why I'm amazed, I see this happening over and over in my life and in this practice, and yet still sometimes I forget.
When we allow ourselves to dream, to meander through the pathless woods, we ignite our spirit and souls by creating space to feel what brings us to life. As a child I did this naturally, all too often chastised for being a 'daydreamer' and then in later years the more harsh "you'll never amount to much if you're just a dreamer", and yet a dreamer is most definitely what I am and that brings me enormous pleasure and some great success! I live my life on my terms doing what I love with people who inspire me daily, whilst those who conform to other people's expectations and dreams rarely get to feel that feeling.
Dreaming our lives into being is the path of the Warrior Heart! Why so? Because most people falter when things don't go the way we may have hoped, when obstacles arise, or when we are over attached to outcome, and so we stop dreaming and return to our comfortable places, staying safe and playing small. If we don't do that, then we have to be prepared to make our mark! To stand resolute in the face of crushing disappointment, to trust in the process unfolding and more importantly, to dream new dreams. Dreams are like tiny seeds; they need watering, feeding and light, they need our attention. If we give that to them, and if we start to develop our own body wisdom, then these things really do being to happen - try it for yourself and see, and if you cant really feel it, it's probably not the right dream....
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