How often do we use our word against ourselves? How often is our self talk shockingly negative, or perhaps even more tricky an aspect to manage, subtly derisive? I am struck recently by the loop of dialogue that can run inside us that either silently repeats and reinforces all of the negative programming we run from childhood, or yells at us like an evil nemesis all of our failings and shortcomings, as if that were the cross we bear that we will eventually nail ourselves successfully onto. What's more shocking is that if we are not mindful of this, we will be the ones nailing ourselves to that cross, no-one else can ever do that to us, or for us. In the same way, we are the ones who can take ourselves successfully out of these traps too, no one else can do that to us, or for us. So, knowing this, why do we fall into those traps in the first place?
Childhood is the most powerful programming we can ever experience. We are young, vulnerable and impressionable, a heady combination indeed! So what we see, hear and learn in these formative years has a huge impact on who we become, however that's not to say that this should be a story we continue to tell ourselves if it keeps us small and disempowered. In doing so we enter the 'blame game' - the"you made me do this/be this/act this way." It could be argued that this is fair to a degree, but them limiting thereafter. What we tend to do in the wake of our conditioning is seek out relationships and situations that replay this pattern which then confirms our world view. You see how we get stuck? Once we bring awareness into the picture, we can begin to take responsibility for changing that pattern and here is where the real liberation starts.
Healing can only happen when we first acknowledge the story, the pattern and the core wounding. Then we bring it to light, understand it, forgive it, and move it transforming it. If however we continue to use our word against ourselves "you're stupid/fat/ugly" "what do you think you're doing?" "you are so hopeless/fucked up" etc, then our bodies, spirits and psyches hear this, believe this and repeat the things or the dramas that prove this. How fabulous to know this! Change lies within our own ability to re-program our internal dialogue. Speak kindly to yourself and watch how this changes everything, because it can, and it will. We are the ones we have been waiting for!
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